I will never forget standing in a cold arena near our hometown during a particularly stressful hockey game. My husband was working and my daughter was with grandma – thank God!
My son was in net and it was a very close game. We were up by one and there was only a minute to go; the referee blew the whistle for an offside call. Seconds later he dropped the puck to start the play again.
I knew the game would be over soon, so we just needed to keep the puck out of our end. I glanced over to the scoreboard only to realize that the timekeeper hadn’t started the clock.
I started to panic and then proceeded to yell at him, saying, “Start the clock, start the clock, the CLOCK!” Finally he heard me and so did everyone around me, everyone in the parking lot and I’m pretty sure everyone in the surrounding towns too.
When I realized what I had done, I could have crawled under my seat. The game finally ended and my son’s team won, but unfortunately I had lost any shred of dignity I had arrived with that day.
All of a sudden my hockey friends that I used to stand with were now pretending they had some place to be, as far away from me as possible. .
As I was waiting for my son to come out from the dressing room, I noticed the timekeeper I had yelled at leaving the arena.
I was expecting an adult, but to make things worse, a young teenager emerged who was no more than 15 years old; this was obviously a volunteer position for him.
As he walked into the canteen, I couldn’t help but notice that his cheeks were beet red as if someone had just embarrassed him, and unfortunately that “someone” was me. His mother was there to pick him up and I saw them talking.
After he was finished telling her the story of the crazy lady in the stands, she turned to give me a look of complete disgust … and she should have.
I went out and sat in the car and was beyond mortified. I embarrassed myself, the parents around me, my son, and worst of all, this completely innocent kid.
One quote from referee Blake Deschenes will stay with me forever.
He said “At the end of the day it’s always just a game; you’re just playing. The most important thing is to have fun and no matter what level you’re at, we understand the competition rises and so do the emotions. You just have to remember to always know the difference between emotion and abuse.”
I don’t think I can explain it much better than that.
– Author Allyson Tufts lives in Belleville, Ontario. To purchase your copy of her book, Lessons From Behind the Glass, please go to www.LessonsFromBehindtheGlass.com.